EMOTIONAL ABUSE AWARENESS

HELP ME RAISE AWARENESS OF WHAT EMOTIONALLY ABUSED CHILDREN & ADULTS GO THROUGH

 

 

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"Kiss of Thorns" is an extraordinary story of what an emotionally and physically abused girl had to go through. After years of torment by her own mother, she finally finds freedom after moving to London where she falls in love. When she finally thought that she was free from her mother's emotional blackmail, her mother starts to reel her back pulling all the stops...

Sometimes when we think of emotional abuse we only think of children. But what we tend to forget is that children are the adults of tomorrow. A lot of adults today have been and are still victims of emotional abuse/blackmail. Some have managed to rise above it and some seem not to have been able to rise above it due to their current circumstances. For example some may be tied to their "emotional abuser" because of financial needs, they are co-dependant financially.

The sad thing is sometimes our abusers are those we spend the most time with: family members, work colleagues, friends or partners etc...

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"Customers' reviews from Amazon

5.0 out of 5 stars Definitely an eye opener. Watch out for wicked parents! 10 Jun 2013

By Tichi_London

I read this book in less than 24hours, so much I was hooked up. Suspense is kept at quite a high pace and this is written with so much emotion that you could almost believe this actually took place. But the story line is so intricate that you would never believe if someone told you this could be true. In this story, family relationships are looked at from a very particular angle and this is what makes this book so interesting. The scenario features great world famous cities of Paris and London. I would recommend this for whoever likes to read books with urban backgrounds and intimate details of human life."

"5.0 out of 5 stars Surprising, disturbing, revealing May 21, 2013

By Kaj

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This book reads like the diary of a young girl who has been through some very difficult times. Often disturbing, it makes you think about morality, relationships, race and family ties. I'd recommend this to anyone who has had to deal the mental illnesses of a family member or close friend"

Everyday parental life: My favourite children activities

Everyday parental life: My favourite children activities: Sadly this year, many days looked like that in London... What do you do with your little ones on a rainy day? Share your tips below ...

Childcare is a financial struggle

When the average cost of a nursery across London, UK, is £60 a day hence £300 a week, no wonder why the average income family struggles. That's £1300 a month, £15 600 NET a year! Add on top of that your rent & bill costs ... not much is left to eat... I don't even dare mentioning "enjoy ourselves or provide fun activities for our little ones"...

Many of our European counterparts have governement subsidised systems, where families get to pay for childcare according to their income levels. That seems a much fairer way, doesn't it?

No wonder why many parents in the UK have to rely on their parents (the grand-parents) to keep their little ones whilst they are at work... But with the retirement age getting older and older even grand-parents won't be available anymore to stay with their grand-children! They will have to stay at work...

But for me the main question remains, why should parents have rely on their parents (the grand-parents) to keep their little ones? Of course it's great if the grand-parents are kind (and available...). Nowdays grand-parents are busy, either still working or enjoying their well deserved retirement life.

And what if the grand-parents live far away? Many young families move to the city for work and do not have their parents next door to help out with the children...

And what about those who just don't want to rely on family members to keep their little ones...afterall not all grand-parents have good intentions. Some use the fact they have been keeping the grand-children as a reason to have greater control over their own children...

Children, when becoming adults and parents should be able to be totally independant and autonomous.

More should be done to help young families cope with the raising costs of childcare. Companies' vouchers are a good start, but surely not enough to cope financially... It's the public responsability to raise childcare costs issues to their local MPs so that the topic gets further discussed and that solutions are found. Maybe not for us, right now, but for all the young families to come ....

What do you do when you have been emotionally abused by your parent? And the same parent takes you to a family court to ask for grandparental rights?

Check out my 1st novel called Kiss of Thorns, by Lilliane Rosse, available on Amazon Kindle and Kobo.

Synopsis:
Seventeen-year-old Sarah lives with her mother in one of the finest suburbs in Paris. But since her father left to escape her mother’s violent temper, Sarah has had to endure her mother’s unpredictable moods and promiscuous lifestyle.
With no one to turn to or confide in, Sarah must fend for herself as best she can. On Sarah’s final holiday with her mother before finishing school, her mother’s reckless pursuit of strange men nearly gets Sarah raped.
Sarah completes her A levels and leaves for university in London, where she finally feels free to live her own life. But her mother will not accept Sarah’s departure.
With Sarah’s every step into adulthood, her mother’s reactions become increasingly extreme and sinister.
In a series of unravelling events, Sarah ends up being forced to confront the truth about her mother...


Available on
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Grandparents' rights

With over 117 000 divorces in England and Wales, the amount of grand-parents requesting contact has been rising in the UK.  At the contrary of some of our European counterparts, the UK does not give grandparents an automatic right to their grandchildren.

In a case, where the divorced parent who has child custody deliberately does not want their child to see his ex-partner’s parents and providing that the grandparents have good motives and shows respect to their ex-son or ex-daughter in-law, then the law and right for grandparents to visit their grandchild should be enforced. 

However, grandparents being foremost humans, have like all flaws and vices.

Many would feel angry with their child’s ex-partner after a divorce, this feeling of anger comes naturally as a protection for their child who has been left alone and who is torn apart. 

Others would struggle to remain objective and might not be fair-minded as they would start criticizing their child’s ex-partner, who now has full custody of the grandchildren, deliberately or not, in front of their grand-children. This would alienate the grandchildren’s and might cause emotional damage to them.

In some cases, grand-parents who are just in a bad or non-existing relationship with their own children might miss out seeing their grandchildren.  Sometimes in retirement and in order to feel that they are in control of something or someone, these grandparents feel that the only way to reinstitute or keep control of their children’s would be by requesting a contact order with their grandchildren.

In other instances, grandparents who already enjoy the right of seeing their grandchildren, but who are just unsatisfied at the frequency of visit or at the way the grandchildren are raised or who just don’t appreciate their children’s partner or also who just have huge disregard for their own children, would abuse the law and their rights by applying to the family court to have their rights enforced and written on a piece of paper. These purely vindictive grandparents wish to force their ways into their children & children partner’s lives by hurting them through a court order.

In extreme situations, some grandparents may have been very abusive parents both emotionally and physically, it is totally out of order when these grandparents try to seek contact with their grandchildren. It is hard to believe that bad parents can become good grandparents.  The danger in these cases is that the abused child does not always have a written or oral proof that his or her parents had been abusive, sometimes they find it shameful to talk about such abuse to even family members, let alone outsiders. Hence, abused children find themselves trapped in a situation where they have to have to justify their reasons behind their refusal of granting their parents’ wishes.

Good grandparents can help children to understand their roots and who they are, but only when they are good intentioned people.  

Let’s highlight that grandparents’ rights would be helpful for good grandparents who want to access their grandchildren for the right reasons, for example when their child is deceased and when they always had a good relationship with their child's partner.

Surely an adult would always want their children to spend time with their parents (grandparents) if they are good people. Otherwise if the grandparent isn’t welcomed into their grandchildren’s lives then maybe there is a good reason and this should just be respected.

Only pervasive grandparents would insist. Sometimes grandparents would make claim of mental insanity of their children, financial instability and all sort of excuses as reasons for them to keep control of their children. But most ultimately it’s all about the grandparent’s personal satisfaction and nothing to do with the best interest of the grandchild.

Lilliane Rosse

Source:
Ebook “Kiss of Thorns” by Lilliane Rosse, available on amazon kindle or kobo