Friday, June 21, 2013

Say NO to discrimination

When will we see a world where we can all live together without any discrimination?

When you're a child you tend to live in a bubble, in "your world", surrounded with family & friends; and if you parents do not encourage you to learn about other countries and cultures, well... you can easily grow-up and become close-minded, especially if by nature you are not a very curious person.

One would think that children are curious and eager to know about the world, at least that's how it was back in the time; children wanted to become explorers, adventurers...Instead in nowadays' Society, values have changed so much, than many youngsters are actually so comfortable that they prefer not to be disturbed and instead continue their lives in their own environment.

How can cultural interaction happen if one stays within its community? Teaching communitarian lifestyle isn't going to help fight against discrimination on the long term.

Some people complain that they are not integrated well, yet they do not actively seek to interact with people who aren't from the same countries or religion. One shouldn't complain if he doesn't make an effort. Of course it's a vicious circle.... when one doesn't feel integrated, he doesn't feel like making an effort. But when there are two parties, what ever the situation is, if one doesn't make an effort and the first step in stone, then never anything will be resolved.

Parents have an active role to play here, ensuring their children grow up with an open mind. Encouraging your children to play and interact with others from different cultures and origins would help them grow with the acceptance of others in their mind.

As a parent, whenever you get a chance to make your child interact with another child from an other country, I would encourage you to cultivate this habit.
As a young adult, I'd encourage you to travel. Visit other countries, live abroad for sometime, get to know other cultures and always keep an open mind.

But most importantly let's remember, both parents & young adults, we are all human wherever we come from, we all have red blood in our veins... no exception we are all the same.

Written by Lilliane Rosse, Author of Kiss of Thorns, available on Ebook: Kindle: Kindle:

Monday, June 17, 2013

What values are we teaching our children?

Human behaviours are so interesting to observe, we are so selfish and individualistic that it is almost scary! Why? why are we only thinking about our interest first? all the time? And why are human beings never totally satisfied?

Have you noticed how we are never completely happy, even if we got what we wanted for so long ...we want more? 

That promotion at work you fought for .... you got it and then not even a year later you want an other one?
That guy you've been dreaming about... you're finally with him and after only couple of weeks you're bored?
That bag you got crazy for ... you saved enough  to buy it and then .. after couple of months it's been thrown at the back end of your drawer?

Does that resonate with you? Don't you think this is wrong? What are we, adults & parents going to teach our kids if we act like this? Like immature children?
Shouldn't we learn about patience and appreciation, shouldn't we cultivate the values of hard working? I'll admit that it's not that easy to do, especially when EVERYTHING you watch on TV is fake. Kids grow up thinking they can get it all now! It's so wrong.

If the society we live and the media around us are deceiving us and our children, making them believe that they can become the next pop star, the next footballer or the next tycoon in only 3 months (the time of a TV show!), well let's get real and WAKE UP.

We, the parents have a crucial role to play. We need to teach our children about hard working, about respect, about earning things. When I see these young adults around 20 years old who they believe they know it all and totally disrespect their bosses at work, well there is definitely a problem. But really I don't blame these kids ... they just got carried away by their environment, who I blame is their parents, who didn't have the courage to tell their kids the truth.

Let's not deceive our children by letting them think they are the best, because they would get hurt and if they are not taught to deal with failure, they are going to become wrecks. Not just physical ones, but mostly emotional ones.....

From Lilliane Rosse, Author of Kiss of Thorns, available as Ebook on Amazon Kindle, Kobo and on WHSmith. In Kiss of Thorns, I explore values that parents teach or don't teach their children. Kindle: Kindle:
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Thursday, June 13, 2013

Everyday parental life: My "Charity & Associations" Page Review

Everyday parental life: My "Charity & Associations" Page Review: I surely do not have the funds I wish to support all the charities I would love to, but I have my tiny share of voice, in this vast world wi...

Sunday, June 9, 2013

Respect your children's choice of partner

Years ago one couldn't get married with someone from a lower social status. Rich married rich and poor stayed amongst themselves. People were discriminated against because of their social status...well... I say "years ago" but this actually still happens nowadays...

We see celebs marrying celebs, and the rest of us, well..., we stay amongst ourselves!
If we purely only talk about "social status" and by that I mean "income" then we could fairly say that things have slightly moved on for the better. It is possible today to find couples where one earns considerably more than the other one... and it's great to see that money isn't anymore a criteria for selection.
This is not always the case though ... I know some girls who have a "checklist" before finding the right partner ... and in the "checklist" money has to get a GOOD fat tick! well ... society is getting shallower by the day hence I'm not that surprised that money is key for some.

Back to "why people had to marry within the same social status years ago"? Mostly not to make the family ashamed! Did I say the "family"? Yes I did!

As a young girl I always thought that family members were loving and caring about your feelings. By loving I mean that they would accept what ever makes you happy. And the choice of a partner would of course be one key aspect of your life, if not the most important aspect of your life, that makes you happy! right?
Well, growing up ... I got a shock! I did because I came to understand that actually family members (of course not everyone's family members ... let's not generalise, but many) didn't really look after your own happiness, but instead they looked after their own one.

What do I mean by "their own happiness"? I mean that, being foremost human beings, family members can be extremely selfish!

Haven't you noticed how easy it is to introduce to your parents someone "like you", who lives across the street? Oh yes parents love that ... they know you're not far from them and they can still keep an eye on you!
But as soon as you fall in love with someone who isn't "like you" it becomes a massive issue for the family...

"you know he's isn't from around here, he doesn't understand our culture..." "multi-cultural & inter-racial marriage never works" "You're doing a huge mistake, you'll suffer it later" bla bla bla ... oh yes! I'm sure some of you recognize these words...

These days, if your partner isn't richer than you, your family and friends still find a way to accept him or her, but as soon as you come along with someone from a different country, a different religion or dare I say different skin tone then the whole headache of having to explain yourself over and over again to your so called "loving" and "caring" parents & friends starts.

Discrimination has actually never been so alive.
In 2013 it is just shameful.
People should be free to marry whoever they want and makes them happy. Who are we, as parent, to tell our grown-up kids not to marry someone because we do not like the "look" and "origin" of him/her?

Children shouldn't be at the mercy of their parents, just because they are "The" parents. Of course I would always advise children (small and adults) to respect their parents especially if they are good people, but I think it's also time to tell parents that they should start respecting their grown-up children. And this starts by respecting their children's choice of a partner.

By Lilliane Rosse, Author of "Kiss of Thorns" - available on kindle and kobo format.

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

A bit more insight about my passion for writing!

A little more insight into my passion for writing

1.       What inspired me to write “Kiss of Thorns”?

Sometimes when we think of emotional abuse we only think of children. But what we tend to forget is that children are the adults of tomorrow. A lot of adults today have been and are still victims of emotional abuse/blackmail. Some have managed to rise above it and some seem not to have been able to rise above it due to their current circumstances. For example some may be tied to their "emotional abuser" because of financial needs, they are co-dependant financially.

The sad thing is sometimes our abusers are those we spend the most time with: family members, work
colleagues, friends or partners etc... Kiss of Thorns brings to light the silent suffering from emotionally abused children and adults."

2.       How did I come up with the title?

One tends to think that when he or she gets kissed is because he or she is loved. In Kiss of Thorns the opposite’s senses and feelings are highlighted: “Kiss” is soft and pleasant whilst “Thorn” is spiky and painful, this is because the mother’s main character, who should be a loving and caring mother reveals herself as being selfish and wicked.”

3.       When did I start writing?

“I’ve always enjoyed writing, when I was a little girl I used to keep my secret diary right under my pillow so that no one could touch it while I slept! As I grew older I kept on reading all over again all those school stories that kept me well busy!”

4.       Anything else I'd love to let you know?

This story sheds a light into dark places, it’s an eye opener highlighting the extent that abusive parents are ready to go. At the same time, it’s a message for hope showing that there is always a way out for those who’ve suffered from emotional blackmail and abuse” 
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Kiss of Thorns”by Lilliane Rosse available as Ebook on amazon kindle or kobo  

Sunday, June 2, 2013



"Kiss of Thorns" is an extraordinary story of what an emotionally and physically abused girl had to go through. After years of torment by her own mother, she finally finds freedom after moving to London where she falls in love. When she finally thought that she was free from her mother's emotional blackmail, her mother starts to reel her back pulling all the stops...

Sometimes when we think of emotional abuse we only think of children. But what we tend to forget is that children are the adults of tomorrow. A lot of adults today have been and are still victims of emotional abuse/blackmail. Some have managed to rise above it and some seem not to have been able to rise above it due to their current circumstances. For example some may be tied to their "emotional abuser" because of financial needs, they are co-dependant financially.

The sad thing is sometimes our abusers are those we spend the most time with: family members, work colleagues, friends or partners etc...

Available on Amazon Kindle and Kobo (if you do not have an Ereader, you can also download the Kindle or Kobo App on your tablet or smartphone)



"Customers' reviews from Amazon

I read this book in less than 24hours, so much I was hooked up. Suspense is kept at quite a high pace and this is written with so much emotion that you could almost believe this actually took place. But the story line is so intricate that you would never believe if someone told you this could be true. In this story, family relationships are looked at from a very particular angle and this is what makes this book so interesting. The scenario features great world famous cities of Paris and London. I would recommend this for whoever likes to read books with urban backgrounds and intimate details of human life."

"5.0 out of 5 stars Surprising, disturbing, revealing May 21, 2013

By Kaj

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This book reads like the diary of a young girl who has been through some very difficult times. Often disturbing, it makes you think about morality, relationships, race and family ties. I'd recommend this to anyone who has had to deal the mental illnesses of a family member or close friend"

Saturday, June 1, 2013

Everyday parental life: My favourite children activities

Everyday parental life: My favourite children activities: Sadly this year, many days looked like that in London... What do you do with your little ones on a rainy day? Share your tips below ...